August 21, 2003
I learned from having a broken heart that it is not the rejection that makes the whole experience so painful; most of us can deal with rejection. It’s the ambiguity that sits at the heart of why we are being rejected. For to say to someone “I don’t want you” is pretty clear, no confusion there. However, to tell someone, “Call me, write me, come go to lunch with me, here are some flowers, a kiss, I love you”-and then say “I don’t want you” is very confusing. I know now I was not the one with the problem. Blameless.