May 30, 2015
Dear T, I have to separate "my" retirement funds from "your" retirement funds. I've been meaning to do this for two years. That's how long ago my lawyer told me to take ALL the money in our joint fund and decreed it in the divorce judgment. Money, wealth, power, relative importance in the world, obligation, entitlement, self worth it all comes to a head when you and I have to undergo this process. (Maybe it only comes up for me and you're oblivious?) So, for my own sake of smallness? or for fairness (really?) or to maintain, I'm taking half.