February 17, 2015
Coping with loss: if you don't have a plan, then you fall into adoptive strategies. With the loss of my husband, first I rejoiced. Then I covered over the wounds of the past and invited friendship. The same old voice checking in, the same tales about the cats or the old property. Then I became aware of my resentment. I saw it was a fall back to the way I always handle hurt; the sweep it away and under the rug. Unacceptable. He did a lot of damage and he never apologized. I have not forgotten. My memories are throbbing.