December 11, 2013
I've been perplexed that I can continue my relationship with former husband even though his acts toward me were hysterically primal and vindictive, while I have been unable to forgive my sister for a mountain load of much smaller infractions through our lifetime together. This I know: I can forgive things that are unconscious. Maybe I sense that T's acts are that, or, that he was able to show me he loved me. My sister has remained silent, showing reluctance. Maybe, Sis's actions were unconscious. Even though she presents as an intelligent, reflective person. One doesn't see one's own blind spots.