March 31, 2013
The real deal: my sister, has a super protected self image. She considers herself a God-fearing, sweet souled, salt of the earth, wonderful person. EXCEPT WHEN SHE IS WITH ME! I'm the one that punches holes into her self image. She can't stand it. My new awareness of her default response is helpful: She is accusatory, saying "you are attacking me" (in response to any anger.) Then, when I am cognizant of her strategy and confront the accusation, she says, "You hurt my feelings!" Translation: You are not upholding my pedestal position. You are wrong and bad. Hmmm. Gotcha.