February 17, 2013
The more I watch people deal with the straining circumstances of their lives, the more I realize that coping is THE shaping tool of our lives. Simply put, anything that works to increase comfort, avoid negative stress gets repeated and reinforced. Anything that does the opposite, is discontinued. Patterns, over a lifetime create unique individuals. Annoying behaviors have their origin in this formula: drunkenness, gossip or emotional eating, chattering, shopping, maybe even anger becomes a comfort to wear if it avoids hurt. Conversely, positive behaviors are discovered and repeated: exercise, humor, exploring, socialization,and thankfully,the arts: poetry, painting, music.